Marriage seems to almost be a dirty word in Quebec where we have a very high rate of non-married couples living together as opposed to getting hitched. Why is that you ask? Well, partially anyways it seems like many single guys out there believe that their sex lives will dry up as soon as they get married. They think whatever kinky behaviour their girlfriend is presently demonstrating will all of a sudden stop as soon as they propose. I'm here to tell you it isn't true.
Studies in "Marriage and sex" from Discovery Health back me up in that it is proven that people in marriages have anywhere from 25 to 300 percent more sex than single people. It seems to depend on age.
Men seem to have this idea that if they get married that their sex life becomes non-existent. I don't know how in their minds it is any different living together. I'm not denying that in any long term relationship it now becomes a little harder to feel romantic what with the pressures of bills, a mortgage, the day to day grind, and the fact that if you see each other every day you take each other for granted. Though all these things would happen if you just live together.
What oftentimes does cause a decrease in a couple's sex life is the addition of kids into the equation. Those little time suckers render the parents exhausted by the end of the day and the parental units usually fall asleep as soon as their heads hit the pillow. Couples should make a point to set aside some time for just the two of them. It doesn't have to be at night but anytime they can be alone together where they can focus exclusively on each other.
Though I cannot really blame guys for feeling that the kinky sex games and dressing up in French maid outfits stops once you get married as every television sitcom and film plays up that idea. It is cheap and easy humour, but is not the truth.
Keeping a healthy sex life going in any long term relationship takes work. You have to make it a priority. It is up to both partners to make the effort. Clue in to what your partner wants or needs and make it happen. If a sex life dries up it rarely is the fault of a ring or one of the partners. Everything within a relationship takes two people – especially sex.