Youthful mistake or true love?

Written by Sam

Saturday, 09 May 2009 19:00

When humans lived only 30 to 40 years getting married as a teenager was not thought of as odd. If you were a woman and not married by the age of 20 you were thought of as an old maid. Today we live well into our 80s so most wait until their late 20s or 30s to get married. Notice how I said most. Some still get married today as teenagers or in their early 20s. Do we think that this is too early an age to get married?

How can you tell at a young age that the person you are dating is the love of your life? Since you are young it is logical to assume that you don't have that much dating experience so are you qualified to make the commitment decision? You probably haven't had many long-term relationships if you are still a teenager. Are you stunting your development as a person by staying with the same person at a young age? You then are not experiencing things alone but rather with another person you can rely on. Are you just afraid of being alone. Or should you just take the leap of faith and listen to your heart at all times?

Now most so-called experts believe that you should get to know yourself well before you commit yourself to another person for the rest of your life. It is more likely that the marriage will succeed if you can predict how you will behave under all sorts of stressful conditions. It is also important to be confident in yourself as a solo being before you think of getting married.

Now, only 44% of all marriages don't end in divorce so saying that there is a high divorce rate in marriages involving young people is not a legit argument. We all know high school sweethearts that got married young and are still happily married. So not all end in divorce.

It all comes down to the individual in the end. If you are mature enough to grasp the concept of what you are doing and are marrying your best friend as opposed to the guy/girl who makes you hot. So it really doesn't matter if you are in your teens or 50s when you feel ready to commit to the person you are with.