10 Tips for Singletons During the Holidays

Written by Sam

Monday, 06 December 2010 16:35

Typically the holiday season is a tough one for the single folks out there. Everyone around you seems to be coupled up and all activities seemed geared for duos. Fear not, in my books the holidays are the best time to be single. Now, you might have read that and be scratching your head wondering if I have finally gone off the deep end, but if I explain to you my line of thinking you'll have to agree that I make a lot of sense. If I do say so myself.

Being alone at Christmas allows you to invest a lot of time in family, friendships and yourself. Your attention is not divided and you really have a chance to focus on what is important.

Most holiday columns of this sort will be geared towards couples, so I have decided to do my top 10 with a slant towards the single folks out there. Here is a list of things that you should try and focus on during the holidays if you are single:

1) Never agree to or set up a first date that happens on New Year's Eve. If you don't click with the person what are you going to do? You are stuck in that awkward situation for the night and that means at least until midnight. Plus that would make the kiss at midnight quite uncomfortable, no?

2) Try not to overindulge in the holiday foods, late nights and drink. You'll just end up hating yourself for it and it will bring you more down about your life. Moderation is the best idea.

3) Finally get rid of that silly idea that there is one perfect person out there for you. If you are still clinging to that maybe it is the reason why you are single. There is no such thing as finding perfect love or being half of the perfect couple. Pop that bubble and get on with your life.

4) Never bring a newbie to the office party. This could lead to some embarrassing behaviour (that you would not really know about) that will cause plenty of explaining on your part and gossiping on your co-workers parts. Why take the risk?

5) Call up your other single friends and go out on the town. Don't wallow in front of a romantic comedy with your gallon of ice cream. Have fun. Live life!

6) Enjoy the fact that you do not have to spend any time with people who are not really your relatives. Smile knowingly at your friends who are being dragged off to "Aunt Martha's" house for Boxing Day brunch. You know that they are either hating every moment or bored out of their tree. Plus the pressure of finding your in-laws the perfect gift is totally off your shoulders.

7) You are single so do your darndest to look your best at parties. Because you are single you don't have to worry about what anyone else thinks so dress for yourself. This is your time to shine! But remember too short or too tight is not the message you want to send out either.

8) Remember it's me time. Do things as you wish. Sleep in as late as you want to. Decorate your place the way you want to. Come and go as you please. Read those books or magazines that you previously haven't had time to. Get up and go or sit on your couch and watch all four seasons of Californication.

9) Plan ahead and prepare a witty answer for the inevitable questions about why you are still single. Nothing rude or defensive, just be prepared. Try something like, "Yeah, I am having such a great time and am really getting to know things about myself that I previously didn't."

10) Pamper yourself and buy yourself a fabulous gift. Something like a fabulous pedicure or a day at the spa would fit the bill. Have your heart set on some jewelry? Don't wait for someone else to buy it - treat yourself!